For me, the worst part about being divorced is the overwhelming guilt of having denied my daughter all the benefits of a two parent household. The guilt is not always with me but around the Christmas holidays, it returns with a mad fury.
You see, in my mind, the picture perfect Christmas begins with two perfectly adorable kids (twins in fact!) bursting into their parents’ bedroom at daybreak and then jumping up and down on a poofy king-size bed squealing in excitement, “Merry Christmas Mommy, Merry Christmas Daddy!
The two perfectly in-love parents instantly wake up, give each other and their twin offspring good morning kisses before the entire perfect family races downstairs to open Christmas presents. Afterwards, they’ll dress up in perfectly matched Christmas outfits and head out for a decadent family lunch at cucu and guka’s.
THAT is what the picture perfect Christmas day looks like in my mind. A two parent, two kid, matching clothes perfection.
My reality is quite different. To start with: no twins here. Nope! My solitary, indestructible ovary soldiered down my Fallopian tube all on its own and remained perfectly intact while awaiting fertilization. Also: Ella and I both like to sleep in so not only will the “Merry Christmas Mommy!” be delivered at a civilized time, there will also be NO jumping on beds, king-size or otherwise (please refer to a cautionary tale regarding some 5 Little Monkeys). Christmas presents will all be hers (from me) and the only things that may match will be our sleepy eyes and pyjamas.
However! Despite my less than “perfect” reality, I am still, as always, madly in love with Christmas! I love everything about my favorite holiday: the jingles, the food, the festive good cheer, the Coca-Cola truck, everything!
So this year, rather than sit back and wonder what my imaginary perfect family (I call them The Perfects) might be doing over Christmas, I want to start a brand new Christmas tradition for my little household!
I haven’t planned everything yet but here’s what I have so far in my Single Mom Christmas Tradition Starter Pack:
- Christmas tree, lights, decorations!
I’ll will set aside my horror and buy those skeletal looking fake Christmas trees for Sh 3,000. Then Ella and I will have a blast as we struggle to string up all the lights and decorations. We may both be vertically challenged but we shall overcome!
- Handmade Christmas cards!
My art skills leave plenty to be desired and we might just end up with glittery scraps of manila paper but handmade, individualized Christmas cards shall be made and loved by all!
- Festive cookies!
I already found the cutest Christmas themed cookie cutters at House of Leather, now to find an easy recipe to follow so Ella and I can get to baking…
- Christmas cookathon!
I just got a new kitchen island made and can’t wait to break it in with a Christmas throwdown! If all goes well (read: If I can fight my laziness) the Christmas lunch menu will include rotisserie style chicken, potato and zucchini bake, beef biryani, vegetable curry and naan bread. Yum!
Whether they like it or not, I will hunt family and friends down for some Christmas quality time. I’m thinking of starting a tradition where I host a Boxing Day party. Does anyone know how to make Eggnog… or what a mistletoe looks like?
I can’t wait! I’ll be sure to take and post photos of everything!
“Holidays are coming, holidays are coming, holidays are coming…”