5 Reasons Sex Gets Better With Age

When I turned 30 this past June, it dawned on me: sex has never been this good. And? It feels like it will just keep getting better and better the older I get! Funny story: When I was in my early twenties, I thought that sex was overrated. Sex. Overrated. Ha! If I could go back in time I would give myself a good thump on the head, have a hearty laugh and then tell younger me to give it a few years. Why? Because sex gets oh(!) so much better with age! And here’s why I think it does:


1.You’ve had time to get to know yourself

The older you get, the more you learn about yourself. You’ve had a few sexual experiences, snuck in a few minutes of porn here and there, experimented with a dildo or two, even let your fingers do the walking on a few horny-but-all-alone nights. You know what gets you hot and what does not. This means that you can immediately re-direct Mr. Big when he’s doing something that’s not tickling your fancy. You can steer him in the right direction because you already know where it is!


2. You’re more confident now than you’ve ever been

Feeling confident and sexy enhances the sexual experience sixty-ninefold! And while adolescence may be plagued by acne and insecurities, the early 20s are only slightly better. As you get older though, you start to believe in your own sex appeal. You buy into your own hype. And when you start to feel yourself, it feels even better when someone else has the pleasure of feeling up on you. This confidence also means that you’re brave enough to let yourself go and give in completely; Give in to the excitement, give in to the pleasure and give in to your climax.


3. You’re smarter and safer with your vagina

Routine pap smears, ribbed condoms, getting tested, the pill, the patch, warming lube… you’ve developed a smart sex formula that keeps your vagina safe and happy. You’re mature enough to understand the importance of sexual health, have had the time to figure out what works best for you and you enjoy the financial freedom to get whatever you need. Sex is SO sweeter when it’s safe and worry-free!


4. You Make Men Step Up Their Game

You have a solid career, you pay your bills, you have an informed opinion on corruption, education policies as well who needs to get voted off of Big Brother Africa. You are about your business, a far cry from the unsure shy little girl that you used to be. You are a grown woman! Mr. Big knows that he needs to come (no pun intended) correct if he’s going to please you. Mr. Big knows that if his game is weak he could easily get voted off of your bed. So what does he do? He does his research, he trains and does stretches by your bedside if he must, then he pulls out the A game of his life to satisfy all that woman.


5. Your time is more important now than ever before

Before I became a mom, before late nights at the office, before grocery lists and before house repairs, I had a lot of time to myself. I could stay up late whenever, sleep in all the time and spend the greater part of my weekend arguing with my dorm mates about what pizza toppings to get on our order. I had nothing but time to myself! Then came motherhood and adulting; These days I’m lucky if I can pee without my daughter banging on the bathroom door asking me what’s taking so long. When your “Me” time comes at a premium, you throw your heart and soul into whatever precious activities you can enjoy just for you, including sex, which is even more satisfying when you feel like you’re stealing some time to spoil yourself with some good old ecstasy!


And that’s why I think sex gets better and better with age. Overrated? Ha!


11 Comments on 5 Reasons Sex Gets Better With Age

  1. Wambui
    October 4, 2015 at 12:02 pm (2 years ago)

    You are so right, it does get better with age. Wait till you turn 40 OMG! !!

  2. Wangari Mwaura
    October 4, 2015 at 10:37 pm (2 years ago)

    I love this article.

    Reminded me of why I am a fan of The Green Calabash. Great writing. In your face honesty.

  3. Kabura
    October 4, 2015 at 11:58 pm (2 years ago)

    Good piece, l do like the honesty and l completely concur. I blush on the thought that l would never have as awesome sex as l did when l was 21….. And l also do agree wacha you get older, as l like to say Na Bado.

  4. Anonymous
    October 5, 2015 at 7:58 am (2 years ago)

    very true it all better with age.

  5. Anonymous
    October 5, 2015 at 10:02 am (2 years ago)

    thats very tru cz u already knw wt u want

  6. Charles Kbinda
    October 5, 2015 at 12:33 pm (2 years ago)

    Lovely way to look at it. It happens to apply to men too!

    • litherkhagai
      October 6, 2015 at 11:27 am (2 years ago)

      You peaple u’ve pambard me.lts very true!

  7. Carren
    October 6, 2015 at 5:04 pm (2 years ago)

    Hey Girl, thanks for your articles i always love reading a piece from you. Keep it up
    I wanted to ask if you have a moment; how can i start my own blog? I have never done any article I just have an idea of what my blog would be centered on but generally i am clueless. I will appreciate any response from you.
    Kind Regards,


    • Holly
      October 9, 2015 at 10:23 am (2 years ago)

      Hi Carren, let me chip in, the secret to writing is just start and get going. Then keep writing some more. If you are asking about opening a blogsite, there are several free hosting domains like wordpress and blogspot. You can start there and move to a self hosting once the blog gains some mileage. Let me know if you need any help opening one, I can assist. no charges.

    • Shiko
      October 21, 2015 at 12:01 pm (2 years ago)

      Hi Carren! My advice is to pick something you are passionate about and just start writing! WordPress is a great platform for blogging – it’s easy to set up and to manage. You’ll get better with time so just get started as soon as possible and send me a link when you do!

  8. Nyokabi
    October 21, 2015 at 11:36 am (2 years ago)

    I sure do look forward to this age. Great piece!


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