When I turned 30 this past June, it dawned on me: sex has never been this good. And? It feels like it will just keep getting better and better the older I get! Funny story: When I was in my early twenties, I thought that sex was overrated. Sex. Overrated. Ha! If I could go back in time I would give myself a good thump on the head, have a hearty laugh and then tell younger me to give it a few years. Why? Because sex gets oh(!) so much better with age! And here’s why I think it does:
1.You’ve had time to get to know yourself
The older you get, the more you learn about yourself. You’ve had a few sexual experiences, snuck in a few minutes of porn here and there, experimented with a dildo or two, even let your fingers do the walking on a few horny-but-all-alone nights. You know what gets you hot and what does not. This means that you can immediately re-direct Mr. Big when he’s doing something that’s not tickling your fancy. You can steer him in the right direction because you already know where it is!
2. You’re more confident now than you’ve ever been
Feeling confident and sexy enhances the sexual experience sixty-ninefold! And while adolescence may be plagued by acne and insecurities, the early 20s are only slightly better. As you get older though, you start to believe in your own sex appeal. You buy into your own hype. And when you start to feel yourself, it feels even better when someone else has the pleasure of feeling up on you. This confidence also means that you’re brave enough to let yourself go and give in completely; Give in to the excitement, give in to the pleasure and give in to your climax.
3. You’re smarter and safer with your vagina
Routine pap smears, ribbed condoms, getting tested, the pill, the patch, warming lube… you’ve developed a smart sex formula that keeps your vagina safe and happy. You’re mature enough to understand the importance of sexual health, have had the time to figure out what works best for you and you enjoy the financial freedom to get whatever you need. Sex is SO sweeter when it’s safe and worry-free!
4. You Make Men Step Up Their Game
You have a solid career, you pay your bills, you have an informed opinion on corruption, education policies as well who needs to get voted off of Big Brother Africa. You are about your business, a far cry from the unsure shy little girl that you used to be. You are a grown woman! Mr. Big knows that he needs to come (no pun intended) correct if he’s going to please you. Mr. Big knows that if his game is weak he could easily get voted off of your bed. So what does he do? He does his research, he trains and does stretches by your bedside if he must, then he pulls out the A game of his life to satisfy all that woman.
5. Your time is more important now than ever before
Before I became a mom, before late nights at the office, before grocery lists and before house repairs, I had a lot of time to myself. I could stay up late whenever, sleep in all the time and spend the greater part of my weekend arguing with my dorm mates about what pizza toppings to get on our order. I had nothing but time to myself! Then came motherhood and adulting; These days I’m lucky if I can pee without my daughter banging on the bathroom door asking me what’s taking so long. When your “Me” time comes at a premium, you throw your heart and soul into whatever precious activities you can enjoy just for you, including sex, which is even more satisfying when you feel like you’re stealing some time to spoil yourself with some good old ecstasy!
And that’s why I think sex gets better and better with age. Overrated? Ha!